STUDENTS AND MENTAL HEALTH

its been a while since i wrote something on this blog. being a student, mental health is too much crucial.

today ,I try to write as wide and as deep as possible .i know its not gonna be panacea but i wanted to address and vent out some things as being a student.

even it is uncomfortable to me to write all this but somethings need to be 

there was a an accident in the orn , new delhi in which 3 upsc aspirants died due to water logging. after some days, i do not remember correctly, but there person who said something like this 

"what we have done to students , he always study , no social activity , no outside life,  always in libraries, always reading something , never getting in real life ...what have done to students ...except study he knows nothing, what we have done to student on a societal level"

also i read a quote somewhere which is "there are no good students and no bad students rather there will be a good teacher and bad teacher". while growing up ,  i find it actually true that many people just do the job of teacher because in india they become  unable to another job. 

some years ago, i met an old person who live his life quite well and when i told him about current ongoing education and unemployment scene in india , he responded me with a good tool and even warned me against it , that is demographic dividend. he said to me the demographic dividend could be a great tool for the world in context of india but for the youth , it has become one of major problem source. since everyone who is capable to do a job , unable to find so, the competition just skyrocketed. if you think you deserve this job , or merit , maybe you actually deserve it but the demographic dividend pushes you bottom ...and i repeat these are not my opinions...these are opinion to which i was confronted. 

in india, there the education scene is so fucked up that all the infrastructure responsible for education is on the brink of collapse...but it will not...due to indian people prejudice against indian education system. with the ongoing century , there is too much need for emotional intelligence. even in people who are aged, across globe, on various position lacks this basic human skill. every student is in race of exam ...running blindly before exams ... for them exam is life.. they dont even know life apart from exams. they feel anxious and stress for most of time...due to this pressure. a little bit of pressure is good ,uncertainty work as fuel ..but when this uncertainty got out of hands too much ...its makes life hell

in context of indian students, they dont know how to live a good life , they even dont know what good life means , what it constitutes. in our world, the only thing matter is work , work and shittt work. the life becomes so fast that everyone needs everything just in splash of light.

in todays world , everyone running with their closed eyes and strong legs( since they are running for too much time , their legs become strong) and when they achieve something even iota of what they wanted to , they started to become idols for others...look how fast i run...but no one cares for their closed eyes. people started to copy them ... people started to do idol worship...the concept of atma deepo bhava is lying in bin. no one care for the time, efforts which makes you comfortably yourself , true to yourself, they just wanna copy and achieve things which out of 1000, 1 did and that one again sets the target for rest of the population. people just want shortcuts, which could be good and smart but they dont want to find out their shortcuts because finding what works for you take time, efforts use of brain and failures, instead they want others shortcuts to make their life walk of cake. 

people must allow themselves to use time and to fail, to fail better must be the motto. if edison did not fail in everything what he did at primary school, he must be good for his family but we dont even recognise him today. he must live a normal life. my teacher once told me that " only those drow in water , those who know how to swim". i was unable to understand it that time but now i think it means that those who know how to swim actually take risk of failure and allow them to fail, because for them it does not matter that they win or they lose. but they dare to do it. living a normal life could be an easy option but living a life full of ups and downs adds something beauty in the life. 

only a person who has faced failures understand the true nature of success and once he faced success, he know the true nature of failure...because if a person never see night, he dont even know what a day actually looks like, even though he living it...we only know how great a hero is, because we know how bad and harsh the villain is...how bad the situations are....

the education infrastructure in many countries is so deeply ruined that we dont even know that the aim of school is to rote learn things, make student study in a job oriented manner ... its not bad to study for job oriented but if the sole purpose of study is job ten we need to look it with suspicion...rather than developing independent minds , cultivating critical skills, students made dependent.

the over dependency of people lies in various fields, as family, friendships, relationships, teacher , mentors...etc. his family depends on him as his study could provide relief to their economic inequality ...he make friends so that he dont have to take even an iota of burden of himself...he depends on teacher so that  teacher will made him study all the knowledge and spoon feed him with a silver spoon...he  depends on mentor to navigate life challenges...  they could provide a path...but the person has to walk on its own and people hate this self work. 

 it could be attributed because in india aspiring youth in his generational term is poor, means he dont want to take risk because his parents are poor, so he wanted to live a normal life 

another teacher in my life quoted that " often brilliant minds suffer confusion in pursuit of excellent". but the problem with people is that they dont want any confusion , they want a smooth road ...they dont want great life due to initial suffering rather they want normal life with no suffering at all. they choose mediocrity. 

they are everytime  under pressure ...pressure of expectations...how sad it to say the students are filled with expectations rather than enjoyment ...the things which need to be expressed by heart, are now pasted forcibly on their brain ...there are many type of expectations as expectations from self, from family, from peers and what not.

learning takes time. this was my teacher's words but as we live in instagram life , there is no level of patience. even critical thinking develops not in one night. things take time to be built for long term. one day success not longs for too much time.

even people while this time taken to build themselves blame past for it but we need to understand that past actually makes you , it shapes you, the failures , the past mistakes are actually the learning tools of life that over a period of time builds resilience. if you learn from mistakes of even a decade, its totally worth it to you not others since it is your life , and you have your own pace. the race between rabbit and turtle win by both , difference is of just time, temporal change .both win a race in different time and in different universe at different speed. have a sense of self belief always. make yourself a priority

its very important that you focus on yourself without being selfish. people focus on everyone except themselves and lags behind ...you should make yourself a priority. people do idol worship and never focus on know thyself. we always know foreground process, never background process and thats why the comparison is so flawed. some takes less time, some takes more times, some has less hardships, some has more struggle but the destination is same .

in your life , incorporate many things , have multiple goals , prioritise one task at a time but do several things ...try some hobbies ...work for what you want to do ...try to achieve a sense of balance a sense of balance for long duration...life is a marathon...not sprint ...some days are good, some days are bad but keep moving . its okay to feel all feels , vent out them safely..but keep somethings secret. accept the life as it is presented rather than making it fairly tale.

you have different works in life, different needs at times, makes them with time make it as multidimensional . even you dont have some things that are out of control accept it and make life despite it. always choose quality things over quantity. # देर आओ , पर दुरुस्त आओ 

there could be many examples as mc donald, rapper krsna, talha anjum, karma , the entrepreneurs tata, and the beloved zakir khan, the curious case of benjamin button by David fincher,  always says that time is relative, you can lose sense of time and do what you want to do. 

have friends, have support system , but people live in extremes...either they vent out all in front of everyone or they keep silent all the time. dont take any exam so seriously that it becomes life , as my bua said to me...life is too long...it will give you one opportunity after another . have a schedule, have a structure of days, months and year, it reduces anxiety and uncertainty of time to do what. Try to achieve what you want to with a better heart...with the help of balance...you could bring quality and quantity education and it will do wonders. Like mental health is important but work/ study is also important. It could be a dynamic balance...that somedays it's bad, somedays it's good but you keep moving...working and achieving your goals... keeping your heart happy as happy heart will help in better results... Try to make a balance with your goals as priority...

ACCEPT THIS LIFE AS IT IS AND STILL WORKS ...DESPITE HAVING ALL ODDS AGAINST YOU IF YOU WANT TO DO SOME THINGS BY HEART

- shinakht