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what type of exam cse is for me ?

 for me , honestly upsc cse is not a memorization exam ..its not related to how much i can study , its not how smart i am , its not how much consistent i am rather it is an exam of my emotional stability. this is exam of my emotional understanding, how much i am able to deal with my emotions effectively. other than emotional stability, i have all that is required to ace this exam thats why i said it as an exam or a test of my emotional stability . blogging helps a lot in emotional stability, friends helps but this is all from my side. from my side i wrote a blog as  emotions and upsc cse but but but ...there has to be a direction nad here comes my missing link.. poets are like my mentors ...they never negate your feelings rather they validate your feelings ..i can walk a thousand miles on my own but poets help in direction ...its like my mentorship  ... and i am not kidding right now as  i can say without any doubt that nida fazli is a fucking genius on the matters o...

padhne main nahi lagta ?

i know many rational thoughts behind studying. such that 99 reasons to know why studying is important ...and studying is indispensable...but still padhne ka mann nahi hain . don't be guilt about the fact that you are not going to studying rather wasting time on other thing...think it as recharging yourself or just purely being human. an you must never do 100 percent effort ..leave it to 80 percent....leave somethings for the next day..never complete the day. since effectiveness beats efficiency..though i don't believe it completely beacuse i don't have any results..still i am trusting it ..beacuse it stays atleast somewhat in my favour  the first thing that you can do is stay away from phone, be it music, or any insta reel, or any youtube. yes, you can call people or play any small game. the second thing that you can do is change the subject, change the place, change the method of studying, make notes, revise, read, learn new, watch video/lectures..attend pyqs or mocks. if ...

Emotional intelligence of love

so by just looking at the title, you must be wondering what could i write more which has not been written till that time. the only thing that i can give is personalisation. so here is my honest and clear take on love ... don't chase the better half  it is most sad and most frustrating advice that i can give to myself, and have given so.. say no to casual say no to someone directly without thinking it would hurt them .  be blunt in terms of love. don't act as friend as in facade of loved ones...before and after . you still found people attractive, as attractive as you never think..life has always more to offer than your imagination.  its my personal preference ...if you won't dedicate time to build what you have to offer because you have nothing to offer at this age . because,  suppose you found a person attractive and this person you met after 5 years of being indulged here and there ...so you have nothing to offer ..even you have nothing to do even for yourself... s...

क्या लिखूं ?

कितने ज़ख्म लिखूँ, कितनी परेशानियाँ लिखूँ, खुद के बारे में जो भी लिखूँ, हर पंक्ति में एक हैरानी लिखूँ। अपनी ही गलतियाँ लिखूँ, अपनी ही कमियाँ लिखूँ, लिखूँ अपनी किताबें खुद में, और तुम बताओ, मैं क्या लिखूँ। रात भर की नींद लिखूँ, या रात भर की परेशानियाँ लिखूँ, अपनी गलतियों की सज़ा लिखूँ, या अपनी गलतियों की गुमनामियाँ लिखूँ। खुद की जीत लिखूँ, या अपनी नाकामियाँ लिखूँ, खुद की शराफ़त लिखूँ, या ज़माने की बेमानियाँ लिखूँ। फूलों का हार लिखूँ, या सितारों की ख़ाक लिखूँ, अपनी ही ज़िंदगी लिखूँ, या एक हँसती हुई ज़िंदा लाश लिखूँ। मैं चाहता हूँ लिखना बहुत, पर अपने हाल पर और क्या लिखूँ। दिल, दिमाग दोनों लिखकर खो दिए, अब खुद का मैं क्या क्या लिखूँ। ख़ैर, जब तक ज़िंदा हूँ, चलता रहेगा ये कलम, जिस दिन रुक जाए, उस दिन अंतिम संस्कार लिखूँ।                                           –शिनाख्त 

Hurting people romantically

I have full authority to hurt people romantically except that one girl who will be my wife. And it includes even the flirting stage to anyone. And that's how I see loyalty in myself. And that's why to all girls out there... I am most non romantic person, most non interested guy and most non chalant in terms of love and attraction. But on a human level , i have humanitarian connection without any sexual or flirty ones. Jo ho , bass ek se ho ..wo bhi pura...adhura ho,  toh kisi se bhi nahi.

ख्वाहिश

ये सूरत ए हाल सँवर न जाए कहीं, जो आए अब वो न जाए कहीं। आती रहती हैं यादें उसकी, फिर भी चाहता हूँ वो लौट कर आए नहीं। दिल को भी मिलें कुछ दिन सुकून, बेवजह कोई मेरा दिल दुखाए नहीं। इतना सता लिया है लोगों ने बेवजह, अब और कोई मुझे यूँ सताए नहीं। अगर ग़म में हूँ, तो रहने दो, मुझे मेरे भ्रम से निकाला जाए नहीं। सोते हुए हँस दूँ अगर, मुझे नींद से उठाया जाए नहीं। काटने को बची है ज़िंदगी मेरी, अब सच में कट न जाए कहीं।                                        – शिनाख्त 

How to build consistency

  Some days are in your hands, some are not , some days some work arrives...some days it's just your mood . I call these moments as little moments which can't be avoided rather must be accepted and then coming back to work as early as possible. But I have a problem, when I study in an ideal way , I enjoy 2 days ...and there I lack ... So I come up with my solution as  Never give your 100 percent...just on very very specific day... Rather try to achieve 80 percent and keeping yourself hungry for that day. And that's how I think I could achieve long term consistency.