LONELINESS, THE SELF AND THE SELFISH

Since childhood, I saw people being selfish and that could be without any reason. many a times, i even felt betrayed by people in the being of selfishness. there could be instances of loneliness arise due to these issues.
i was being fearful of loneliness since a long time, but now i feel somewhat different ...it's like i began to understand loneliness. At the very fundamental level, each person is unique. each person is different in somewhat or other manner, thus it can be said that every person at the core is individualistic.
it does not mean there could not be overlaps . 
Imagine idea of a human as a perfect circle, we all are somewhat circular but still not the perfect circle...we share quite similar things, we overlap many things but still we dont completely cover up each other like 100 percent 
thus every person has to enjoy these limited areas of coincidences, there has to some social interactions to enjoy these overlaps but it does not mean that a person or a group of person completely understood you ...its not possible at least humanely.
there is a little portion of self that got not covered even after 1000 connections and that portion or better to be say void has to be filled by ourselves..through our action , our work and whatever way we feel to get it covered...but at the end somewhat will be missed and thats the beauty of human life. thats why, acceptance is very necessary for it.

There is a misappropriate sher by the jaun elia but it's essence is quite right here...

देखलो जानी अगर हमारे साथ बैठेंगे तो जमाने के साथ नहीं चल पाओगे


I feel I'm on a top of mountain...conquered emotions and many things of my life ...and this loneliness has to be there ...it's the curse of being on top...just accept it...it's the price that I pay for being on top.there is nothing too much that you can do except acceptance.


this acceptance can't be treated as an excuse for being alone all the time. go outside, catch up with some friends, call someone , get engaged with group activities, have a social life and if you still feel lonely for sometime in the day after all this then its all ok...i think loneliness is reminder of no company or your bad company.
IN that very stance of getting covered that void or your part of self, you could become selfish or self interested..and there is no shame about it..its actually every person duty to do self interested things.

The line of between selfish and self interested is very narrow...even i dont know where to draw this line ...but one possible argument, even though is not completely accurate, is that dont hurt people while being self interested...
by the use of proper communication..it can be solved...but as i said...its not 100 percent accurate.

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