Physical desires

Icchayein 

 Ye saksh gumnaami chahta hai 
Ab sabse khud ki badnami chahta hai
 
 Jo icchayein puri nhi ho skti abhi 
 Jo yengi baad main puri , abhi sabr chahta hai 

 Chahta toh sab kuch hai abhi
 Par ehsaas bhi apne insaani chahta hai 

 Jo hona hoga , hoga samay par
 Lekin in icchayon ke chakkar main abhi barbaadi nhi chata hai 

 Aur sab hi chahte hai apni icchyein ho puri
 Mere jaisi icchayein kon nhi chata hai
...
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Yrr ...ek baat bta ...kya kru... physical desire puri bhi karna chahata hun .. But iss chakkar main bahut jyada hectic ho jata hai...padhai + desires... Aur na bhagu unke piche toh guilt rehta hai...aur upar se Mann nhi karta hain unhe pura karne ka... Aur jab pura karne ki koshish Karu toh band baj jaati hai meri

Tu basically teen cheezon ke beech phas gaya hai:
desire, guilt, aur discipline. Aur teeno ek dusre ko kaat rahe hain, isliye dimaag ka traffic jam bana hua hai.

Seedhi baat bolu? Problem desire nahi hai. Problem hai uske saath tera relationship.

Tumhari situation kuch aisi lag rahi hai:

  • Jab desire aata hai → distract karta hai → padhai hilti hai
  • Ignore karta hai → guilt
  • Pura karne jaata hai → overthink + energy drain → phir guilt
  • Result: na idhar ke, na udhar ke

Matlab tumne ek simple cheez ko full-time mental wrestling match bana diya hai.

Thoda ground pe aate hain:

1. Desire ko enemy mat bana
Ye koi bug nahi hai system ka, ye feature hai. Body aur brain ka normal part hai. Isko “control vs indulge” ke war mein daal diya, isliye problem ho rahi hai.

2. Har baar react karna zaroori nahi hota
Har urge ka matlab action nahi hota.
Waise hi jaise har thought pe tu react nahi karta.
Thoda observe karna seekh: “haan aa gaya, theek hai, chala bhi jayega.”

3. Structure la, warna ye tujhe nachayega
Pure din random fight karega toh obviously padhai uda dega.
Better approach:

  • Specific time blocks for study (phone door, distractions kam)
  • Aur realistically maan le ki tu robot nahi hai
  • Matlab agar mind bhatakta hai, thoda break le, reset kar, phir wapas aa

4. Guilt hata, warna cycle kabhi nahi tootega
Guilt sabse useless emotion hai yahan.
Na wo desire kam karta hai, na productivity badhata hai.
Bas tujhe mentally thaka deta hai.

5. “Mann nahi karta, par karna bhi hai” — isko samajh
Ye actually confusion nahi hai, ye signal hai ki tu clarity ke bina act kar raha hai.
Ya toh consciously decide kar:

  • “abhi focus padhai pe hai”
    ya
  • “abhi thoda relax karunga, guilt ke bina”

Dono ek saath nahi chalenge.

Sach thoda annoying hota hai:
Balance koi magical state nahi hai, ye boring decisions ka result hota hai baar-baar.

Tu weak nahi hai, bas thoda scattered hai. Aur haan, ye phase almost har insaan ka aata hai, bas log bolte nahi.

Thoda system bana le, thoda apne dimaag ko chill karne de… warna tu khud hi apni band baja raha hai, desire toh bas side character hai yahan.

Main yahan physical desire ki baat kar raha hun...even wo poem bhi is par hi h

Haan, samajh gaya. Tum clearly sexual/physical desire ki hi baat kar rahe ho, aur uske saath jo mental mess aa raha hai.

Aur honestly, jo tum feel kar rahe ho na, wo koi “rare condition” nahi hai. Bas log isko ya toh overindulge karke ignore kar dete hain, ya suppress karke saint banne ka drama karte hain. Tum beech mein atke ho, isliye friction zyada lag raha hai.

Seedhi baat, bina sugarcoat kiye:

1. Desire natural hai, par tum usko ya toh overthink kar rahe ho ya over-control
Sexual desire aayega. Regularly aayega. Yeh biology hai, philosophy ka topic nahi.
Problem tab start hoti hai jab tum usko:

  • ya toh “mujhe ye nahi feel karna chahiye” bana dete ho
  • ya “abhi turant satisfy karna hi hai” bana dete ho

Dono extremes thaka dete hain.

2. “Pura karu toh band bajti hai” — kyun?
Thoda honestly dekh:

  • kya tum uske baad guilty feel karte ho?
  • ya energy drain hoti hai aur padhai pe impact padta hai?
  • ya tum usko control nahi kar pa rahe, frequency badh rahi hai?

Zyada cases mein problem act nahi hota, pattern hota hai.
Agar wo compulsive ban raha hai, tab dikkat hai.

3. Guilt sabse bada parasite hai yahan
Desire + guilt = mental torture
Desire alone = manageable

Tum jab satisfy karte ho aur phir guilt aata hai, toh brain usko “mistake” mark karta hai
→ phir next time aur conflict
→ phir ya toh binge ya suppression

Nice little loop. Congrats, human brain.

4. Practical approach (boring but actually kaam ka):

  • Accept karo ki desire aayega (isko eliminate nahi kar sakte)
  • Har baar react mat karo. Urge wave jaisa hota hai, aata hai, peak karta hai, chala jata hai
  • Agar engage karte ho, toh consciously karo, guilt ke bina
  • Agar avoid karte ho, toh usko “sacrifice” samajh ke karo, punishment nahi

5. Padhai + desire balance
Tumne usko “either/or” bana diya hai
Jabki reality hai “timing”

  • Jab focus time hai → distraction minimize karo
  • Jab break hai → brain ko thoda relax karne do
  • Lekin dono ko mix karoge (padhte hue hi indulge ya fight), toh dono kharab honge

6. “Mann nahi karta par karna bhi hai”
Yeh actually signal hai ki tum habit se act kar rahe ho, desire se nahi
Body bol rahi hai “meh”
Mind bol raha hai “karna chahiye / nahi karna chahiye”
Aur tum beech mein phas gaye

Thoda ruthless clarity chahiye yahan.

Dekho, tum koi broken insaan nahi ho. Bas tum apni hi desires ke saath unnecessarily philosophical ho gaye ho.

Isko simple rakho:

  • desire = normal
  • control = skill
  • guilt = bakwaas

Thoda time lagega, par jab tum isko itna serious lena band kar doge na, tab ye tumhe control karna bhi band kar dega.

Don't take your desires seriously

Haan, woh line sunne mein zen monk wali lagti hai, par use galat samjha toh ya toh banda robot ban jaata hai ya phir secretly overindulge karta hai.

“Don’t take your desires seriously” ka matlab yeh nahi hai ki
“ignore karo, daba do, ya saint ban jao.”
Aur yeh bhi nahi ki
“jo mann kare bas karte jao.”

Iska actual matlab thoda zyada boring aur practical hai:

1. Har desire command nahi hota
Dimaag bolta hai “abhi chahiye”
Par iska matlab yeh nahi ki tu turant obey kare.
Bas ek signal hai, order nahi.

2. Desire ≠ identity
Tu apni icchha nahi hai.
Aaj strong hai, kal weak hogi.
Agar har wave ko serious lega, toh life ek emotional rollercoaster ban jayegi jisme tu passenger hai, driver nahi.

3. Observe kar, worship mat kar
Jab urge aaye, usko thoda distance se dekh:
“haan aa gaya, theek hai”
Bas. Uske aage drama add mat kar.

4. Over-importance hi problem hai
Tum kya kar rahe ho abhi:

  • ya toh desire ko villain bana rahe ho
  • ya usko hero bana rahe ho

Dono mein tum usko center stage de rahe ho.
Reality: woh side character hai.

5. Calm decision lo, reaction nahi
Agar pura karna hai → consciously karo, bina guilt ke
Agar nahi karna → consciously skip karo, bina frustration ke

Ye “half-hearted” zone hi sabse exhausting hai, jahan tum abhi ho.

Thoda harsh lagega, par helpful hai:
Tum desire se zyada apni reaction se thak rahe ho.

Jab tum usko itni importance dena band kar doge na…
tab woh bhi itna loud hona band kar dega.

Insaan hone ka matlab desire hona hai.
Par insaan rehne ka matlab hai uske peeche ghiste na rehna.

...

abhi main chahta hun kisi ke boobs dabana...buri tarah...


Right, and your brain has decided this is an urgent national emergency. Classic timing.

Let’s not pretend this is some profound philosophical crisis. This is just a strong sexual urge hitting at full volume. Happens. The problem is not the urge, it’s what you do with it next.

Two things need to be very clear:

1. Wanting it ≠ doing it
Tum kisi ke body ko touch karna chahte ho — that’s a feeling.
Par bina consent ke karna? That’s not “desire”, that’s crossing a line. Real world mein uska result sirf regret nahi hota.

So park that fantasy where it belongs: in your head, not in someone else’s personal space.

2. Urge ka peak hota hai, phir girta hai
Abhi jo intensity feel ho rahi hai na, wo permanent nahi hai.
10–20 minutes mein naturally drop ho jaati hai agar tum usko feed nahi karte.

Ab practical cheez, jo actually kaam aayegi instead of lecture:

  • Change state immediately
    Baith ke sochoge toh aur bhadkega.
    Uth, thoda walk, push-ups, cold water on face, kuch bhi physical.
  • Environment switch
    Alone + idle = brain goes wild
    Thoda public space, ya logon ke aas-paas rehna intensity kam karta hai
  • Focus shift, not suppression
    “Mujhe ye nahi sochna” bolne se aur aayega
    Kisi task mein ghus ja, chahe boring hi kyu na ho
  • If you decide to release tension privately, at least don’t attach guilt
    Warna wahi loop dobara chalega

Aur ek blunt baat, jo shayad koi seedha nahi bolta:
Tumhe physical connection chahiye, sirf body nahi. Par abhi wo desire raw form mein aa raha hai, isliye thoda aggressive lag raha hai.

Tu koi creep nahi hai, bas ek insaan hai jiska brain hormones se powered hai.
Bas itna dhyaan rakh: control tera ho, impulse ka nahi.

bc,, aaj tak nahi dabaye...

Haan, aur duniya ruk gayi is wajah se. Relax.

“aaj tak nahi dabaye” sunke lag raha hai jaise koi achievement unlock karni hai life mein. Ye koi checklist item nahi hai jahan tick lagana zaroori ho warna system fail ho jayega.

Tumhari problem ye nahi hai ki tumne nahi kiya. Problem ye hai ki tum usko itna hype de rahe ho ki wo dimaag mein obsession ban raha hai.

Real talk:

  • Physical intimacy tab meaningful hoti hai jab do log ho, consent ho, comfort ho
  • Random kisi ko pakad lena koi “experience” nahi hai, wo sirf problem hai
  • Aur jab tum genuinely kisi ke saath close hoge, ye cheez naturally aayegi, forced nahi

Abhi jo ho raha hai wo basically:
curiosity + frustration + hormones = overdrive

Aur tum usko “mujhe abhi karna hi hai” bana rahe ho.

Thoda ground pe aao:

  • Sab log tumhari age mein yeh phase dekhte hain
  • Sabko sab kuch instantly nahi milta
  • Aur jo cheez wait ke baad aati hai, wo usually better hoti hai than rushed, awkward, regret-filled nonsense

Tum deprived nahi ho, bas impatient ho.

Thoda apni energy ko idhar-udhar waste karne ke bajaye life build karne mein laga. Jab actual connection milega na, tab ye sab cheezein itni dramatic nahi lagenge jitni ab lag rahi hain.

Abhi ke liye: urge ko control karo, uske peeche mat ghiso.
Nahi toh tum khud hi apni respect aur situation dono awkward bana loge.

but ...i am out of my control...don't know what to do

Thoda ruk. “Out of control” feel ho raha hai, par sach yeh hai ki control gaya nahi hai, bas momentarily weak lag raha hai.

Abhi jo ho raha hai na, woh ek high-intensity urge spike hai. Iska pattern simple hota hai:
peak → restlessness → drop
Tum abhi peak pe ho, isliye lag raha hai ki “abhi kuch karna hi padega”.

Sabse pehle, seedha kaam:

1. Body ko move karo, abhi ke abhi
Seriously, uth ja.
20–30 push-ups, ya fast walk, ya stairs.
Energy ko direction chahiye, warna wo sexual urge ban jaati hai.

2. Alone mat baitho
Jitna tum akela aur idle rahoge, utna brain loop mein ghusega.
Room se bahar jao, logon ke aas-paas raho, ya at least environment change karo.

3. Cold reset
Face pe thanda paani, ya haath dhona bhi kaam karta hai.
Body ko signal milta hai ki “calm down”.

4. Thoughts ko fuel mat do
Abhi agar tum imagination chalaoge, toh aur bhadkega.
Bas interrupt karo pattern ko.
Chahe boring kaam hi kyu na ho, usme ghus jao.

5. Important line sun lo
Tumhe kisi ko touch karna hai → iska matlab yeh nahi ki tumhe abhi karna hi hai.
Woh cheez sirf consent + right situation mein hi hoti hai. Baaki sab mess hai.

Aur ek honest reassurance:
Yeh feeling hamesha nahi rahegi. 10–15 minute ka wave hai. Tum isko ride kar sakte ho bina kuch stupid kiye.

Tu weak nahi hai, bas abhi overloaded hai.
Thoda sa control dikha de is moment pe… baaki sab automatically easier lagne lagega.

masturbate kar lu

Kar sakta hai. Itna drama banane ki zaroorat nahi hai.

Agar urge itna high hai aur tumhara focus waise bhi toot chuka hai, toh privately release karke reset kar lena is honestly better than poora din dimaag usi mein atka rehna.

Bas do cheezein yaad rakh:

  • Guilt mat jodna baad mein
    Ye koi crime nahi hai. Guilt hi tumhe loop mein phasata hai.
  • Isko habit mat bana dena har stress pe
    Warna phir ye escape ban jayega, solution nahi

Aur haan, baad mein thoda sa reset karke padhai pe wapas aa jaana.
Abhi tumhara dimaag overloaded hai, usko thoda calm chahiye, bas.

Tu control lose nahi kar raha, tu bas ek quick reset lene ki position mein hai. Difference samajh le, warna har baar panic karega.

baar baar yer thought aata hai ...life main ...aur baar baar bass masturbate hi karta hun

Theek, ab baat thodi serious ho gayi hai. Ye “ek baar urge aaya” wali situation nahi hai, ye pattern ban raha hai. Aur pattern hi banda thakaa deta hai.

Seedha bolta hoon:
tumhari problem masturbation nahi hai, compulsion hai.

Matlab:

  • thought aaya
  • resist nahi kiya
  • kiya
  • thoda relief
  • phir guilt / drain
  • phir repeat

Nice little loop. Brain ko easy dopamine mil gaya, ab wo baar-baar wahi button dabata hai.

Ab kya karna hai, woh practical baat:

1. Frequency ko normal samajh, par pattern ko challenge kar
Masturbation khud mein problem nahi hai.
Par agar tum har urge pe react kar rahe ho, toh brain train ho raha hai:
“thought = action”

Isko todna padega.

2. “Delay technique” use kar
Next time urge aaye, seedha mat karna.
Bas bolo: “10 minute baad dekhenge”
Phir kuch aur kar (walk, water, phone door, kuch bhi)

Half urges waise hi mar jaate hain.

3. Trigger identify kar
Sach sach soch:

  • boredom?
  • loneliness?
  • stress from padhai?
  • phone + content?

Zyada cases mein sexual urge actually escape hota hai, pure desire nahi.

4. Body ko use karo, sirf mind nahi
Agar energy release nahi hogi toh wo sexual form le leti hai
Exercise = boring advice, par kaam karta hai

5. Porn (agar involved hai) toh usko control karo
Woh intensity artificially badha deta hai
Phir normal desire bhi overdrive lagti hai

6. Guilt hata, par blind indulgence bhi nahi
Tumhe yeh balance banana hai:

  • na toh har baar “chalo karte hain”
  • na hi “main kabhi nahi karunga”

Dono extremes fail hote hain.

Aur ek honest cheez jo thodi uncomfortable hai:
Tum sirf sexual relief nahi dhoondh rahe, tum control feel karna chahte ho apne upar.

Abhi lag raha hai ki “main khud ko rok nahi pa raha”
Isliye frustration aur badh rahi hai.

Good news?
Ye fixable hai. Dheere dheere.

Aaj se bas ek kaam kar:
har urge pe turant react mat kar.
Chahe baad mein karo, par turant nahi.

Bas itna change kar diya na, toh loop dheere dheere tootne lagega.

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