ego and the self

There is a popular nazm by sahir ludhyanvi as 


main pal do pal ka shayar hun 

pal do pal meri kahani hai 

pal do pal meri hasti hai

pal do pal meri jawani hai 

....

mujhse pehle kitne shayar 

aaye aur aa kar chale gye 

kyi aahein bharkar aaye the 

kyi nazmein gaakar chale gaye 

wo bhi ek pal ke kissa the 

main bhi ek pal ka kissa hun 

kal tumse juda ho jaunga 

jo aaj mein tumhara hissa hun ...

...

kal aur aayenge khilti kaliyan chunne waale

mujhse behtar kehne waale 

tumse behatar sunne waale 

.....

kal koi mujhko yaad kare 

kyun koi mujhko yaad kare 

mashroof zamane mere liye 

kyun waqt apna barbaad  kare ...

main pal do pal ka shayar hun ....

....

the nazm is too good and had been written for outside world and ego

how the outside world sees you does not define you, rather it defines your ego ...simply to say what world thinks about you and how you able to see what world thinks...

sahir already said that how world sees you is not a matter of concern to you anymore. you should not think about how great you are just because people likes you or how pity you are just because people don't like you.

you should not be concerned with both the ideas of world about you.

you must see yourself as you are .

.....

but ego has not only this aspect rather it also consist of what you thought of yourself . what you think about yourself generally comes from the past . past builds ego or past helps in identification of ourselves or better to say it helps in getting our identification attached to past events. 

you must crush it to move forward or in order to be free. ego with the help of past tries to chain us in a relic way . As it builds expectations which are not somewhat correct as present and these expectations bring sorrow...rather you should be free to give yours best today without holding any ego or expectations of past . That's how you free yourself from yourself. You should be free from past regrets and future expectations.

You can't change past ..so don't regret it.

You don't have full control over future...so don't expect.

You should be concerned with present.

eg. like i was a topper in my previous classes , in order to achieve what i want from my future, i must live myself in the present time and for that i have to break the shackles of past and be nothing in this time . thats how i can be free and claim what i want from my future. 

thats why people who are hollow from inside are filled with ego while the person who are filled with many things have no place for ego. 

so the crux is "be nothing in order to get filled".

...

be humble about some aspect

also ego is about always getting 100 percent perfect...'

no , it can not be possible ...you must accept yourself as non perfect existent being..

but you should try ... but its not possible to succeed in every aspect of life..

accept that you gonna fail in some spheres which is not even in your control...accept it ..

it makes you humble.

accept that some will come more better than you..its natural...


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