Emotional intelligence of love

so by just looking at the title, you must be wondering what could i write more which has not been written till that time. the only thing that i can give is personalisation.

so here is my honest and clear take on love ...

don't chase the better half 

it is most sad and most frustrating advice that i can give to myself, and have given so..

say no to casual

say no to someone directly without thinking it would hurt them . 

be blunt in terms of love.

don't act as friend as in facade of loved ones...before and after .

you still found people attractive, as attractive as you never think..life has always more to offer than your imagination. 

its my personal preference ...if you won't dedicate time to build what you have to offer because you have nothing to offer at this age . because,  suppose you found a person attractive and this person you met after 5 years of being indulged here and there ...so you have nothing to offer ..even you have nothing to do even for yourself...

so what you will do ...you can't do anything except frustration ...

Honestly 101, i want people to recognise me atleast little, because right now if someone asks me what you do to earn or who you are ...I have nothing to answer...

There is a Zakir Khan line about it..

...iss recognition na milne se ya toh main devdas ban jau...yaa fir itni mehnat aur kaam karu ..ki atleast kuch toh kamau recognition.

this whole para does not reflect the idea to reject everyone..

suppose if someone likes you and told you so,  that she would accompany you , and you too have same feelings for her ...don't reject her...it would be stupidity ..

and if you don't like her..say no and stay away as much as possible ..as zero connection of even friendship..

but don't waste your time in loving the person who is not sure about you . 

and there is no point in searching for that loved one...because in this whole chase and search ...you would lose time ..and you have nothing to offer her...so build yourself up...because the right people often comes automatically.

and people generally and usually at any time will come to your life and they never stop coming in your life .

so don't little your heart if you lost who you loved once.

there is popular quote 

if you want to get something, you have to stop searching for it...better to say you have to become ready for it..because life will give you what you want anyways ...just be ready for it .

you still have to work...you still have to put efforts but say no search..

efforts are useless and even lost in vain if to be put on wrong people.

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