Mere kadhi chawal

  Mann nhi h padhne ka ..koi baat nhi... Baad mein padh lena bro... ..kisi ka nhi karta  Ghum aao , bahar thoda

 i have a bad habit of always watching youtube shorts or mindlessly scrolling phone.  from now on whenever i notice my behaviour , i will try to do some labour, put some effort to put aside my phone. for a while... I will not allow myself to listen music all the time ...and especially while travelling with scooty. Headphones only when listening music in a pvt area.

UPSC or chasing any other life goals requires many things  but when life happens during all this, we get out of the league, out of track and lost our confidence amidst the way  we tend to think that perfection gives us what we want in our life or perfection promises us to give our desired goals but its too flawed.  life is imperfect in itself that's why we can't deal with it as perfection so what to do  ANUDDEP DURISHETTY told me that  zooming out is the solution ... but i resonate it with how to zoom out and how to know whether our zoom out is accurate or not  so what to follow and how to understand that it needs to be focused or not.  so i came up with my solution( not designed by me , but will be adopted by me)  as a loose structure of 8+8+8 8 hours of sleep 8 hours of study  and 8 hours of yours.  i mean there are many people to support it ..as many people do it and clear the exam but i dont adhere to stick to time strictly too much....

 for getting emotional balanced, sometimes you have to cut people through your circle . it does not matter how much you like them because if they dont like you , there is really nothing you can do.  there is a very personalised advice that kept and will keep me mentally balanced even though it requires some struggles that need to be dealt with . Don't contact to people who don't want you to contact them or does not show any interest.  i know its being selfish but it is very essential for your mental health. it is difficult to accept that you are not 100 percent perfect or liked by everyone and i understand that being liked by everyone is not possible and its okay to be so.  reciprocation is very important , as it is one of the basic necessity of any relationship. there will be level of reciprocation , but if there is reciprocation at that level which  accepted to both parties...called as compatibility.

its very normal to be sexually frustrated at young adulthood. as with my experiences are real but not so exceptional. being a virgin, kissless person and unable to find it for sometimes is not a matter of concern rather laughing.  its not a race , its really okay to don't have such life for sometime. there has to be no pressure of it.  its all really okay.  porn and internet are worst enemies in this case. porn and internet are not realities, they are just fantasy fuels, that have nothing to do with reality.you can use it to masturbate but you have to admit that it part of fantasy not reality.masturbation without any shame is quite logical answer here.  You don't have to blabber about your sexual frustration...it's very normal...to feel . Blabbering around it makes it worthy of your notice which I don't think it has. It's really okay to jerk off , don't too much Focus on it. Let it come, let it go ..you imagine someone...let it come ...let it go ...don't put...

I understand this is one of the most misunderstood dimension of love by people , by society and by many institutions. They just treat it as the bad part of it , but in my opinion it is the important part of love and that is being physical. It does not mean that I don't value emotional angle but being physical is very important to sustain any relationship. Our biology designed in a such way that lust became a part of love ... initially it may be big or with time it decreases but it ain't fade away. Emotional dimension is also very important, it's very important to reciprocation of feelings. It's very important to understand each other. But you can emotionally connected to anything despite you don't desire it so much ...eg...you can be emotionally connected to your neighbours , or environment. That's why physical part is so important. But the tricky part is here is that people put label of friendship on emotional part , why so ,because it removes the idea of vulne...

You have to accept yourself as who you are . You have to accept all the things that are yours. you have to accept your limitations.  As I distracted too much by friends. So I will dedicate a time to them only. and still works...sometimes on them and sometimes just let them be ... The how to do any thing? . By believing that you will do even with them. By belief, you can work despite failure. belief is the heaviest armour that one can wear in times of distress, though it costs nothing yet keeps you going. be it goals as career ,people as relationships and more... आज जो आपको शर्ट चाहिए , दुनिया इतनी हारामी है कि आज आपको वो शर्ट नहीं लेने देगी क्यूंकी कल कोई suit आपका इंतज़ार कर रहा होगा। ....zakir khan  for all that, you have to belief on yourself.  Why to belief ?  Remember past ...there were too much suffering and still you did things...be it emotional, personal and what not ... जैसे पहले किया , वैसे और भी करेगा । और बेहतर होगा।